i never had one teacher, or one tradition. i was always after a feeling - and a feeling doesn't have to look a certain way. our humanity has no stereotype. but in college, when there was no one to talk to about any of this, these voices made me feel a little less alone. i honor them all, and belong to none.
company
and if i'm honest - i read most of these so long ago i've forgotten the details. but the feeling stayed. the facts fade; the feeling doesn't.
I
the books that opened something
Viktor Frankl
Man's Search for Meaning
dignity under suffering, and the quiet power of meaning -
the last of the human freedoms,
he called it: that everything can be taken from you but the way you choose to meet it.
Hermann Hesse
Siddhartha
the same journey we all take - the leaving, the searching, the river.
his story is ours.
and the truest thing in it: wisdom can't be handed to you, only lived. (no wonder it reached me.)
Marianne Williamson
A Return to Love
this one did something to me. i've read so many books, so many dry even in spirituality - but some writers carry a real presence in their words, an energy. this one had it. (and those
powerful beyond measure
lines the whole world quotes - they're hers, from this very book.)
II
the mystics
St. Teresa of Ávila
The Interior Castle
the soul mapped as a castle of seven rooms - the long journey inward, toward union with the divine. she didn't call it higher consciousness, or enlightenment; those are my words. she called it
the interior
- the deepening layers of our soul, our humanity, our being and our joy. she wrote of the prayer of quiet, and of humility working soft as a bee at the honeycomb.
St. John of the Cross
Dark Night of the Soul
her contemporary - the two of them reformed the Carmelites together. the dark night of the soul: that the dark is not the end of the way,
the dark is the way through.
he wrote some of his most luminous lines from a tiny prison cell. a very good book.
St. Thérèse of Lisieux
the little flower
the little way - small, ordinary things done with great love. she lived it overlooked, unremarkable to the very sisters beside her - and
her greatness stayed hidden until after she was gone.
her sincerity, her honesty, smallness held as the truest path - all of it quietly, in the face of being dismissed.
St. Augustine
Confessions
how he turned a careless, hedonistic life all the way around toward God.
when you're called, you're called
- and it takes a thousand shapes. it's beautiful. and the line that stays with me:
our hearts are restless, until they rest.
Thomas Merton
the monk who hid away. who hasn't wanted to be safe, to disappear into a monastery somewhere? but near the end of his life - to many people's surprise - he turned back toward the world, weaving Zen Buddhism and the Eastern contemplatives into his writing. not to leave his faith, but to find the one thing underneath them all - the kinship of every tradition. people came to him with their real questions - in the monastery, and out in the world.
i understood his story, because it's ours
- our place in humanity, as we see fit, as we come to understand it, as we simply choose it. it moved me.
III
the wide
Dipa Ma
i read one book, years ago, and one line stayed:
meditation is love.
i came up the other side and found it the other way round -
love is meditation.
i write about it in
Journey of Awakening and Higher Consciousness
. two paths, one peak.
Eckhart Tolle
i went to a few of his seminars. he says so much in so few words - and i'm someone who loves words, who uses a lot of them to reach the feeling. he gets there in one or two. i love where he begins; i just keep walking, into the aliveness on the other side.
Jill Bolte Taylor
My Stroke of Insight
a brain scientist who had a stroke and felt the self dissolve. it struck me because i lived something like it - not a stroke, but true stillness. and on the far side of stillness there is only one realization: we are all one.
i felt at one with all the energy that was, and it was beautiful there,
she said. that's it exactly - the shared humanity, the beauty of all that is.
Simon Sinek
Start With Why
when you know your why, you can move heaven and earth. it's where the drive lives - the fire to thrive. not surviving, but living, giving, sharing.
IV
what i loved
Rumi
not a teacher, exactly - his poetry just soothed my heart. deep, rich, real, raw, true - it reached the ache without explaining it. some nights, that was everything.
Carl Jung
one line i never let go of:
who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.
he wrote it to a woman trying to see clearly - your vision only clears, he said, when you look into your own heart.
Marcel Proust
i don't know much about him - but one line i've carried, and used, more than once:
the real voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.
(he wrote it longer and stranger - about seeing through a hundred other eyes - but that's the shape that stayed with me.)
The Cloud of Unknowing
anonymous
i read it so long ago the memory has gone soft. but it was reaching at something true - that the divine is met not by thinking, but by love.
by love may He be gotten and holden,
it says,
but by thought never.
Dan Millman
Way of the Peaceful Warrior
the book, and the film. i understood the meaning he was after - he told it as a story, and a story awakens what a lesson can't. his Socrates, the old mentor at the gas station -
i always wanted to meet someone like that.
his line i kept:
there are no ordinary moments.
two i keep close
the two i admire most. if i could sit with anyone across all of history, it would be them. these two lines hold my whole thesis - the meaning, the joy, the beauty, the grace.
i can't swear either is word-for-word theirs - the sources are murky - but both are close to how they lived, and exactly how i feel.
“May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition.”
Gandhi
“Not all of us can do great things, but we can do small things with great love.”
Mother Teresa
a small note from me
this page isn't meant to be impressive. it's simply what kept me steady, and helped me keep going, without losing myself along the way.
if you're walking something slowly - softly - for real - i hope something here helps your path feel a little lighter.
you don't need more pressure. you only need what helps you return to your own rhythm.
none of them handed me the map.but each of them left a light on.we are all walking ourselvesand each other home.